What is "love"? It is one of the most loved and perhaps the post misunderstood word in all the languages. Its synonyms ranges from the "attachment", a mother shows towards his children, to the lusty physical passion a youth feels towards a member of the opposite sex. So how we deal with love and still remain balanced is a moot point to be examined here.
It is fact that there cannot be single species in the world which does't want to love or to be loved.Ordinarily love is associated with passion.One wants to possess the person or thing one likes.In order to give some legitimacy to this desire for ownership , one invokes the phenomenon of love. Such love born out of desire breeds jealousy or fear of loss. If we do not get the desired we feel dejected and if possible try to destroy the object or the person. However, once the desired person or thing has become our "own" love gradually shrinks. . So this is simply self- gratification and cannot be termed as love. If we truly love a person, it should be a detached one.Only love for love's sake and not for anything else.
Another aspect of love is that we should be able to respect the person whom we love. For example can we love our parents if we don't have respect for them? If a man loves a woman or vice versa there definitely should be an element of mutual respect.Love born out of other considerations are not likely to last long. But unfortunately most of our socalled love relations are based on give and take.They are quantitative rather than qualitative.So unless we are able to find something respectable in the person whom we like there is no possibility of true love emerging out of that companionship. This does not mean that we shall be able love all the persons we respect.In official life we have to respect our superiors irrespective of their personal integrity. In such situations we are not expected to go beyond the official decorum.The moment the person ceases to occupy the post we discard him.On the contrary, if we are able to respect a person who is supposed to be "inferior' to our status that relationship can be called love. Because we respect his quality and not the position. When we examine our our so-called love relations on these yardstick we could realise that ninety nine percentage of our love affairs are shallow and born out of desire to own or based on greed or other motives.
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