on friendship again

Right from the childhood an individual began to earn friends. By the time he/ she became a mature adult the person might have come across countless friends. As man is a social being at onetime or other he had to seek the support of other individuals to face a crisis in his life. So he is required to maintain good rapport with a few individuals, apart for his close relatives. But most of us complain that we are not able to find genuine friends nowadays to share our joys and sorrows. To an extent there is substance in this. But we will rarely examine the reasons. Even if we do , we will fix the fault on the other and escape. On the contrary, a dispassionate attempt to find the reasons will first point the fingers against ourself.
when an individual meet the other only at the periphery he/she is knowing him / her only partially.One is afraid to allow the other to reach his/her centre.There is a fear that if the other person came to know more about you, he/ she may exploit you. In a fear dominated relationship there would be no mutual trust. Once you suspect your partner no meaningful relationship is possible. In our soceity friendship is perhaps the only relationship which can be formed without preconditions or terms. All other relationships viz, father, mother, husband. wife ,son , daughter and even lover, have the elements of possessiveness. Possessive relations are conditional and fear oriented. A husband cannot disclose everything concerning him to wife or vice versa because other may use it against him /her at a later time. A true friendship is unconditional. He/ she can be a cunsellor, a judge , a guide or a source of great inspiration. Every individual at one time or other may have to turn to a friend for a kind advice ,help or a soothing consolation.A sincere friend will also step in to offer help unrequested.For all this mutual trust is very essential.There definetly should be a willngness to make sacrifice , for the cause of a friend.. Another requisite for maintaining a good and prolonged friendship is keeping on communicating frequenlty even on the matters we think not so important.Don't tell anything to your friend through a third person , particularly if it is in the nature of a complaint. Make it sure that you never disclose anything to a third person that your friend might have told you confidentially. That will cause irreparable damage to your relationship. Don't criticise your friend in front of others. You can vent your thoughts during your private meetings. In history there were examples of sincere friendships between great minds, like Dr.Johnson and James Bosewell, Jean Paul Satre and Madam Simon Beauwar etc. which were towering.