On friendship

Why do we need friends? Of course when we feel lonely somebody should fill the gap. But can we make friendship with a person whom we can't trust or respect? Definitely not. So the best option would be how to shed the feeling of loneliness. .We create so many rules and try to live upto them.This creates a lot of conflicts in life .To overcome this we need the help of friends. When the friend himself is conditioned our woes increases.The matter is much worse when we have friends from opposite sex. In a good companionship the sharing of sex never occurs.Unfortunately we come to believe that sex is the ultimate expression of love. It need not so.In sex, the elements of dependency and surrender exist.when you depend another for your happiness, you cannot respect or trust the other. You are simply using the other.The chemistry between the individuals change tremendously after that. That's why the so called love-marriages dissolve quickly than the traditional ones.Possessiveness, jealousy, hatred etc step in.Friendship is ruined for ever.Again you feel lonely.So the best thing is to learn to enjoy ourselves without outside support. For this awareness about how we are conditioned both by ourselves and others is needed.Once we are satisfied with ourselves we can make friendship with anybody unconditionally. Even if the other person walked away from the bond, we never feel dejected because we never feel a loss and our dignity is in tact.